Keep it clean
By clean, we mean having a daily shower.

Easy tiger
Don't just go barging in down there. Take your time, and make sure you are both feeling turned on before you venture south. If you aren't used to giving head, don't expect to bring her to a climax in seconds flat.

Ask what she likes
You don't necessarily have to go down on her for several hours - just a few minutes of oral sex can do wonders for your foreplay. Ask her what feels good and if there's anything that would make it better.

No magic formulas
Every female is different. There is no point in rigidly following those 'Ten Easy Steps to Give Her an Oral Orgasm' articles in lads' mags. It isn't like an exam, with right and wrong answers. Sometimes you have to experiment to see what works for both of you.

Start gently
Many women say that oral sex gives them more stimulation than penetration. So remember to take it easy and avoid being rough, especially to begin with. Look where you are going too. Gently part the outer lips of the vagina and look for the vaginal opening, and the clitoris above it. These are the most pleasurable areas to stimulate, and are the key to giving the best head. Thrusting a tongue in and out of the vagina might feel good for a moment or two, but it won't be enough to tip her over the edge.

Work it
Try kissing and licking anywhere between her thighs to turn her on. Move on to the clitoris, starting with gentle licking or sucking. Get her to tell you what motion feels the best, what speed and what pressure turn her on the most. Try it with a relaxed, soft tongue, and change to a firmer, pointed tongue. Some women love an up-and-down licking motion, others like it to go from side to side (like a windscreen wiper), and others still like a circular or pressing-down motion.

Giving head to Men:

Him:

Keep it clean
Anyone who's gone down on an uncircumcised penis will tell you that there's nothing worse in this world than an unwashed dick. Failure to do so will lead to serious problems securing a blow job.

Don't force the issue
So you're sharing an intimate moment. You're both turned on like the National Grid, and sex is on the cards. So guys, don't ruin the moment by placing your palm on the crown of her head and slowly pressing. If she feels comfortable going down there, she'll venture south on her own accord. As so many women have told us, there's nothing worse than a bloke who expects a blow job.

Be fair
If your partner does feel comfortable with oral sex, then consider returning the gesture - male or female. The more you share, the more rewarding it'll be for you both. Why not try doing it at the same time?

Praise the performance
Tempting as it is to lie back with your eyes squeezed tightly shut, your partner will appreciate some recognition for their efforts. Be encouraging. Be respectful.

Leave them to call the shots
Just because your partner has consented to give you a blow job, don't assume it means they want to go all the way. It may be a dream come true for you, but not if it leaves them gagging or nauseous. Always let your partner decide whether to stay down there for the main event.

you:

Blow his mind
If you're happy to go down, don't lose sight of what's going on upstairs in his head. Frankly, you're tugging at his brains down there, so you need to pick up on every moan or groan he gives. The better you understand each other, however, the more comfortable you'll feel.

Take control
Many people gag at the idea of going down on a dick. Even if it's clean as a whistle, there's always the fear he'll forget himself, leaving you to deal with an out of control organ with no apparent off-switch. We suggests you grip his penis head as you approach it, and hold it there in a ring formed by your thumb and forefinger. Once he's in, feel free to place your hands around the penis shaft. This gives you control, allowing you to determine how much you want to take into your mouth.

Use your mouth
What goes on when you're down there is entirely up to you. Some women use their mouth as if it were a hoover. Others employ their tongue to great effect. Many do a combination of both. Just be aware that there is no industry standard. Do whatever feels comfortable, and gives you both the greatest satisfaction. Kissing. Nibbling. Even humming a note with his head in your mouth. Whatever you do, he won't complain! We recommend champagne, chocolate and mints as a way of adding that extra zing to your blow job.

Take a breather
Giving head is not an endurance test. You are doing it to him, and not the other way round, so if you want to come up for air then do so. If anything, it'll give him time out to appreciate what you're doing.

Ball control
If the male penis is a motor, his balls are the gear shift and you can't drive a car without shifitng gears! Gently cupping his testicles will widen the area of sexual pleasure for him, and can even intensify his orgasm.

Ultimate control!
Even if he's reached the moment of no return, never feel obliged to let him climax in your mouth. It's your decision, and is entirely determined by how comfortable you feel with it. If you want to swallow, that's fine. If you don't, that's fine too. If you'd rather take his penis out of your mouth then the same sentiment applies. Letting him cum on your tits might be a good alternative. Whether you choose to go down for a second or so, a minute or more, or all the way to the end, no blow job is ever incomplete. Nor is it a compulsory act, and he shouldn't think any less of you if you choose to keep your head held high!